Talking Points to Avoid □Don't force a child to participate in a discussion about death. Answer honestly and as factually as you can. They may ask some questions repeatedly. □Never link suffering and death with guilt, punishment and sin. □Don't be judgemental; don't lecture. □Don't force a "regular day" upon grieving students; but at the same time, don't allow the class to be totally unstructured. Offer choices of activities, e.g., letters, journals and discussion. □Don't say "I know how you feel" unless you truly do. □Don't force others to look for something positive in the situation. □Don't feel you must handle this alone. Ask for help. □Don't expect "adult responses" from children and teenagers. Their grief responses may seem inappropriate to you (i.e., giggling). □Don't minimize their feelings. □Do not force your religious beliefs on a child.